Now Is The Time to Craft Clear Safety PLANS for US-All!

The original ‘Crafting Clear Safety PLANS’ was emerged from events stemming from 2009 and before. Now we’re in 2020 and need to bridge critical gaps in understanding ways to Prevent Problems, not wait for a Problem Pile-Up (a term shared in NAMI, National Alliance on Mental Illness) in terms of having so many problems it’s hart to name them to tame them and get people thinking compassionately toward themselves and others, looking at the bigger impact dysfunction and difficulty has on others, how much energy, time and good will is wasted ‘circling the drain’ not knowing what to do, how to have an intervention, which resources and time lines make sense for an immediate or fairly recent issue.

Moreover there are Patterns of ‘difficulty, danger and decline’ that seem to rule the day for victims and bystanders often while the person persisting in a set of behaviors, interactions, words or lack of participation moves ‘merrily or drearily along’. Becoming pro-active in these unprecedented modern times of ‘all things COVID, Black Lives Matter, Women and Kids Matter, Climate Change and people in poverty matter…’ is being named as a way to help us ‘get out of this mess and address new ways of working together.’

The President of Vassar College has indicated as much in recent published letters. We hear many give lip service to the need and opportunity to ‘do things differently’ with a concern to meet basic needs for the one and the many.

Meanwhile, when there is a person with chronic disregard or lack of understanding about social and personal boundaries, people can be hurt emotionally, socially, physically and economically. Not knowing about laws protecting each person’s rights to have a sense of safety and respect is not an excuse to allow abuse.

Some states spell things out clearly with ways to arrest someone for ‘breach of peace’ and disorderly conduct, assault to various degrees (threatening words, gestures and actions such as throwing something toward or directly at someone, called a ‘projectile missile’) can all have specific consequences. In some states the law stands once there is evidence of a crime versus if the victim presses charges. Some states mandate classes for anger management, intervention for substance abuse or even domestic abuse.

Safe & Together Institute offers a lot of information about how social service, police and other systems could improve addressing domestic abuse in ways to support the victims and their children staying together, rather than allowing for separation of them due to the abuser’s demands or other systems deeming the victim incapable of caring for or providing for her children.

That results in punishing the adult victim and the children for being abused. Holding an abusive person accountable for the choices they are making to violate others is a community concern and  a matter of public health and safety. Everyone needs to be able to learn early on in life and review with updates how things may play out with interventions as well as with ways to address matters through other social and economic programs. Perhaps an unruly tenant can be motivated to move to another location for a short time or longer with help financially and socially (with each community and state helping people set up appropriate places for people to ‘sober up’ or live with accountability or at least not with others who they may harm.

  I explore plenty more on other posts, but wanted to encourage US All to think through matters in our modern world that relate to living circumstances, supervising people who are at risk to drive under the influence or harm others, and for youth and adults to monitor their own choices voluntarily to make progress over time toward playing fairly and taking care of their own needs appropriately as well as choosing to live and enjoy life in safe, appropriate ways rather than be too on the edge of danger when having fun, driving or using anything recreationally in the way of substances or even if prescribed drugs.

Seeing Medicating Normal online recently I realize there is a heap of work to do to prevent substance use (and abuse, and there’s not much of a difference since people can get hooked easily and not offered other ways to address stress, pain, trauma, abuse and so on) of prescribed meds as well.

Thanks for Taking the Time to ponder some of these matters, join in learning more and finding ways to mediate and find team support for oneself and others to address conflict amicably even if using services or needing help from the law. It’s not a guarantee people will follow what is court-ordered and some may be willing to go to a 12-step program rather than have an arrest or protective order in place, but one cannot directly demand that since that may be deemed coercive from what I understand.

Still if there were a common chart of ‘ideas people have considered’ handed out like a menu for Chinese food, numbered and explained as reasonable options with accountability, maybe more communities could create ways for people to get help for handling their emotions, life and relationship issues and stress whether from work, lack of good nutrition or lack of sleep, needs for funds or rides, food or rent and other basics.

Let’s see what we can co-create in these CO-vid times, emphasizing cooperation rather than dis-ease. Let US All lend a hand to create a land of peace and harmony.

There are a lots of good ideas along those lines on PeaceAndHarmonyCo.com as well as on Braintime.com (and I’ll post my affiliate link soon which has some free trial offers on it too!)

Great place to start ‘thinking about things’ and ‘allowing for balance between the right and left hemispheres of the brain’ with BrainTime.com! I’ll wrap this up on that positive note and wish all well for the next important week or so before the Election of the next US President and Vice-President on November 3rd, 2020.

Remember to Make a Plan to Vote and to Tell Others to Please Do So As Well. I’m feeling Democratic votes will help people with healthcare, keeping a feeling of community stronger when it’s needed and our planet healthier, so in case you’re wavering, wave my way!

Be Your Best and the Best will come to You, Vote and we will have to work together to make our world one our next generations will thank us for and we can all enjoy together, here and hopefully abroad as well. One earth, one heart, and everyone doing their part!

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