While so many say 'there are no words', it seems to me, that we need to watch that sign of shock and despair and seek as we can to find ways to light candles of hope, healing and heartfelt feelings and words to encourage ourselves and one another to stay strong in the storm, when facing an abyss, to process 'what the heck has happened'.
The moment of 'finding-out' seems as harsh as the moment of someone's life ending, but really it is 'over' and the experience of learning about what happened is not as devastating as the fact that it happened.