Every country, state and major organization and school could likely stand to ‘add their apologies’ to those harmed over the decades and any being harmed currently…and from most accounts, that is still a travesty some are suffering. Likely we need code words to help victims let others know what they suffered, encouragement to let harm be tallied to map out the basic geographic and social arena in which the abuse if not injury or death occurred and the many types of violators (organizes, private etc.)
All of these are horrible maladies of our times and the world over. Mainly women and children, both boys and girls and other-gendered are victims. Plenty of adult males suffer as victims as well, generally from other men but possibly from whoever abused them when they were young. Rather than have it be about punishing crimes of the past with jail time (which often is short or results in more brutality by or for those committing such crimes), more healing modalities and ways to monitor those with this ‘illness’, and criminal mindset and behavior…and of course keep victims in safer settings from the get-go.
Considering that there may be a spiritual or energetic tally and no crimes will go ‘unnoticed’ or without ‘retribution in kind’ in terms of an ongoing karmic cycle could help everyone slow down in crimes they think they will get away with . Likely many have not heard there could be karmic or spiritual payback so are living in ignorance as well as darkness….
Ideally more leaders and groups could discuss these difficult topics with panels of speakers (maybe anonymous will be everyone’s chosen names) so we can stick to the topic at hand and figure out how to move forward with a sense of real healing and recovery as the goal. Whatever skills we gain in such difficult areas can likely embolden us to look more clearly at what is transpiring in the world..on land to people and animals and our environment, in the oceans to fish and mammals (dolphins,whales seals and manatees …)
Some theorize what happens here is felt throughout other realms (spiritually, among other people, in parallel lives or other parts of the galaxy.) Once we consider more deeply how miraculous all of human life is, and that we may have evolved from other forms (the simplest to more complex animal forms to human over hundreds of thousands of years) we might be able to treat each other with more dignity from early on in life. Much in our childhoods impacts our growth and abilities as adults. With modern opportunities and demands (for housing and making a living) people are often ‘stress and regress’ or rationalize feeling driven to act criminally toward one or more people…and there is seldom a ‘single victim’.
Everyone who counts the perpetrator as a friend or family member is also a victim of a broken trust and set of life relationships that are impacted by the breech of trust. Too often people will dissociate from the reality and tend to blame the victim, deny what is shared, insist on key details such as date and place (even years later), and allege the victim was complicit, didn’t say no or make a clear gesture strongly enough or otherwise put up a fight and particularly ‘suspect’ ‘not end the relationship or interaction’ even when s/he had a chance to do so. These are the kinds of things everyone would benefit from learning about in terms of the set of challenges and confusing dynamics a victim may be in depending on their culture, faith, social ties, economic needs and status, children or others they are caring for and much more.
Generally an area likely ‘allows for such violations’ in some way, lacking a clear way to signal for help and to get needed support. With a perpetrator being arrested or put in jail even for a short time, homelessness (or houselessness) may be the outcome, if not separation from children in a victim’s care.
Those difficult challenges need to be addressed and hopefully mended so victims would not be faced with losing custody or access to their children short-term or longer. Often systems even today will allow for abusers to gain an upper hand over the victim legally and by giving them custody even of children they abuse. That is a key reason many adult victims stay as long as possible. After a separation, particularly if she does have primary, joint of full custody, she may be at increased risk for harm or death at the hands of the abusive male, even years after the situation is ‘legally settled’.
November 3rd is Survivors of Sexual Abuse Day according to the California Protective Parents Alliance (CPPA). Hugs and hope to all who have been harmed (known or unknown….and that Could be anyone when young or having something blocked out.) Deep gratitude to all advocates and helpers for people to heal from all kinds of abuse and harm…and for those assaulting others in the past..or currently, to hold back and ‘consider what goes around may come around’ energetically, spiritually or socially, so to change lanes and get back on track with more reasonable ways of coping or using one’s time on our shared planet. Each day is a new beginning to find ways to quit losing and start winning respect and well-being, maybe with more precautions to not be near or involved with those one may be unfair to or otherwise harm.