"What If I Had A Dream...." A New Foundation to Help Us Think Out Loud and Live More Fully

While freedom of speech is "an American right", we are getting into a lot of Hot Water, Deep Doo and Big Trouble in our lives when speaking (or tweeting or even blogging, FBing--facebooking, and socializing freely.) In part this trouble is happening because Different Rules and Laws Apply to Where and When one can 'speak freely.' One cannot for instance yell "Fire" in a theatre or public place if there is no fire (and maybe even if there is...I need to google that.) That is because people have been killed in stampedes (even from rock concerts or shopping spree sales without an emergency, so again let's live and Learn from what's transpired here on earth.)

Even if one is President of the United States (POTUS), there are Limits to What One Can Say and Do publicly (and Even Privately in 'one's own home', yet in the White House there are extra rules for safety of course...and one should not go uninvited particularly over the fence fyi.) That analogy for 'jumping the fence' and breaking boundaries and maybe even laws is what this post is about to help us all Think Twice about Who We Talk To, How We Say Things, and What We Write and of course Do in Pubilc (and again, even in Private since those areas are becoming more of a slippery slope.) Keep in mind many people are held in jail until their Trial begins or even until Charges are Made. One Can be Arrested for Alleged Activicties, and a Host of Issues in any Divorce, Custody or likely Other Civil Matter. Ever hear of Contempt of Court? That's a HUge term (as Bernie Sanders might say) to cover a host of Gray Areas and often Ass-Backwards Situations Where Victims of Abuse are Pegged as Villains. Their Consequences (even if not cast as punishments by the court but simply on the whim of abusive 'other parties' (think divorcing spouse, father of one's kids or mom of one's kids in some rare cases.)

Ironically if a real victim is given protection, then the 'cease and desist' from contacting her (90% or more of the time the victim is female and by definition as a bonus tip If a Woman is Abused, Her Children are, by definition, also abuse victims. I know it sounds tricky and no one is educating America or the rest of the world, but the power dynamics and death and injury rate of victims. both women and children, is way too high to ignore the major Systemic, Social and Personal dynamics that factor into these miserable learning opportunities.

The most recent news headlines of comedienne Kathy Griffin and POTUS Donal Trump have brought painful commonplace tactics of verbal abuse and cycles of escalating retaliation to a head here in the US and likely is resonating throughout the world. The image POTUS D Trump painted of a commentator of 'bleeding from wherever' ( meaning a female news commentator may have been speaking critically of him because she had her period) was the seed of upset that went viral and planted fertile ground for some retaliation (and a lawsuit I believe) from the commentator but in time from Kathy Griffin who used it as fodder for a spoof about DT 'bleeding from his body parts in an unseemly manner' and maybe that being linked to his comments and tweets, I'm guessing. Without going 'below the belt' to question the possible anatomical connection to his thought process, she apparently got approval to have a gruesome (bloody) prop resembling another body part with a strong likeness to his and dangling that for all the world to see on television (and internet.) She likely has lost her job over it...and did apologize saying she went too far to prove a point.

(Just turning the radio now the Bible verse about  'where every private whisper will be known and shouted from the mountain tops.' That synchronistic message is timely for all of US now.) The headline of this post is important to use to convey one's ideas and thoughts (maybe through a 3rd or 4th party so we can Learn From One Another and maybe express deep concerns, hurt feelings or even good ideas. Even That will have limitations and likely should go through a few screening places. Of course, I have thought of this with my blog realizing 'someone can be triggered by any topic, and Blame the Messenger...likely that's part of what is happening to Kathy Griffin, though there is a vast new field to think through in part because this occurred and was so public. Most abused women are hurt if not killed for 'disrespecting' their abuser, for not agreeing with him, for trying to be safe and respected and insist on her rights. Kathy Griffin was standing up for all women or victims (yes the men too and certainly all children of abuse victims) who Cannot Retaliate with Humor (dark or otherwise, pleas, logic or ethics.) It's go along to get along, give in, go quietly through life and pray she/he/they can wake up to see another day or not face another day in court with dire consequences. That last point is where Everyone Needs to Focus Attention since the Courts are Broken, (newsflash...see Barry Goldstein and Lundy Bancroft and even Safe and Together though that is not necessarily always respected even if it is painting a picture of How to Revise the Child Protective systems--too often those are also unbalanced if not corrupt.) Criticizing the government if they fund one's non-profit is also Not Allowed (without losing one's funding.)

 So the idea of Saying "What IF..." or"Someone or  I had a Dream...", or blending those to buy the right  mindset to pitch a new idea, share a harsh feeling or even present some resolutions is  the new option I am presenting. Gotta wrap up at this time..but it's only the beginning..

 See The Four Agreements book and even the teachings of Jesus about being honest and not blaspheming or defaming the Holy Spirit. The Bible says not to deny the truth of love, peace and divinity...I think to be politically in the ball park. Another area for some deeper thinking... hugenergy...