https://youtu.be/FwLeiY5f7sI Jennice Villhauer
Instead of giving up on making changes toward what you want, give a listen to her talk...She shares that we tend to predict what will happen rather than stay open to positive possibilities.. If someone says, "We need to talk" that can trigger expectations that then shape 'self-fulfilling prophecies'. There's more to that talk..so using the past to predict the future is common and habitual is something to keep in mind...when thinking about the future.