Now hear this: Jan. 9th AM session in Hartford CT on Custody Issues

Hello one and all. The new topics from National Parents Organization and now CT Gov'tis to promote shared parenting..Really it 'sounds about right' YET the experts say Be Careful and Give Abused Women and Kids a chance to get out and stay out SAFELY...please read on www.barrygoldstein.net and let's get more clear about Pre-nups, pre-parenting plans and much more. Careful of making legal agreements which Require Divorce etc to settle..and then get the Court actions such as in the new movie Divorce Corp

Google some info on the 1-10-14 release of Divorce Corp. PLAN ahead best as you can  to avoid common pitfalls  of having no clue about the legalities of marriage--pros and cons-- and the struggles folks face with divorce. What about getting clear about IF people need to address issues for mental, physical, financial or other kinds of basic health/issues, they would do so independently and have a good counselor relay concerns/ progress back to the other party. Keeping issues 'between two people' is limiting when difficulty is brewing. If someone refuses to get help, that's their 'answer'. People need to be willing to address concerns, have a conversation and take a lot of time over the course of days, weeks and months to show there is a steadfast effort with accountability ( proof from not only counselors and doctors but even bank statements or other important documentation). Too bad this may be needed, but not knowing it could be standard procedure is even worse. Parenting plans with 'in case one is not available for any reason--not safe, not sober, not in the area, etc, going through a tough spell or taking a break for a day, week, month or more--could all be considered...who can or will watch the children, pets, house, give rides, etc? Why not plan for some 'what if's'. See www.edgarcayce.org for insights that children may 'choose' their parents and want to learn some lessons..but aim for living by laws to care for oneself, one's children and partner in reasonable ways.

If you need to live apart, get legal counsel or at least look online or call some support services online (www.211.org  Check with Domestic Violence even if you only think things are 'almost like abuse sometimes') Minimizing and denying as well as not understanding types and patterns of abuse can be a dangerous stance. Thanks for doing something to learn online or by talking with someone as it is safe  to do so. Be Very Aware that talking of separating or doing so can be a highly dangerous step and time for you and your children if you are with an abusive man or someone who does not want you to leave (even if he does, he likely will only allow it on HIS terms). Let's try to get a clear picture of the difficulty about abuse in its many guises. Good folks outnumber the bad so why not have faith folks will come through for each other?

Dr. Phil had his Break the Silence to End Domestic Violence campaign--see his site for more info and do what you can in ways that do not endanger yourself or others to get safe or plan people and ways to get help if you need it 'even once' or out of the blue..All the best to one and all to get ahead of that rolling ball..called Dumb-Mess-Tick tick tick Ab-Use (wrong use..as in Wrong Way to live, love or even learn).