A Tribute to Diane Aluska, a Mom who died saving her Daughter's life, In NY on Mother's Day from a Car Fluke

Just when we think we realize the basic car safety to prevent accidents...like Not Speeding or Allowing People Who have 
Just One Drink, or Text or Distracted Whichever (handheld cell phone use and more). Well. this one is hard to believe and likely needs a little more explanation about what caused the car  of an elderly woman to 'jump the curb' and almost hit a teen named Jenna. Her mom, Diane, quickly moved her daughter out of the way successfully yet became pinned under the car and died of her injuries. I read this on Fox News and yes it happened on May 14th, 2017 (which was Mother's Day....giving extra poignancy to the turn of tragic events.)

 This amazing mom, Diane Aluska, with her heroic act which thankfully did save her daughter but not herself, will be honored from here to Alaska...and beyond on the internet. I was thinking about a Jenna I cared for long ago and have kept in touch with. I realize more and more how much time moms, dads, caregivers and others put in to tend to little ones.

 That age-old question of 'how much care and from whom is one I have explored' since college when I realized it was a whole field of study. 

Nowadays, there are many systems 'competing or regulating' childcare. Mainly we focus on the infants and pre-school age kids, maybe homeschoolers if we can after the main public and private sectors.

 Then we try to breathe a sigh of relief when teens seem to have a handle on 'the real world' (and especially as they live responsibly, again often an uphill battle, but hasn't it been for every young generation?) 

Then something "like this" happens and more questions arise...yet even here, folks like Rudolf Steiner and Edgar Cayce (and many others) indicate there may be some kind of 'advance planning' for each of us on a soul level..out arrival and exit times if not manner in which we bid our earthly mortal families farewell...

 There is some choice still from what I have read and heard...such as 'dying within a year or so of an appointed time' or by various ways maybe in part to allow for karmic balancing or wake-up calls.

 I feel this case is one for our greater learning on many levels...and of course the basic one being to appreciate the love this mother had for her children..and likely would have acted that way for a stranger. 

As hard as it is to think through, likely we all need a bit more training for such times. In some cases, if possible, people looking out for one another may mean not letting someone go for the unpredictable save (should someone be there to help assess the odds of pulling through versus losing more than one victim or making a rescue more challenging such as what our teen son Kaelan Paton was facing in split moment timing in June 2009 in a dangerous river turn of events that cost him his life. Thankfully the two he saved before going into the turbulent waters and reaching his friend was 'worth the ultimate sacrifice' in that he likely helped save that third friend.

 Moments later a rope rescuer, Skip Kosciusko--same spelling as the new bridge leading to Brooklyn from 278 from the northwest corner of CT where Skipper lives-- was the one to bring the other lad to safety. All the kids are now in their early twenties and doing well. We can all learn about the bigger game of life, the ways we can help one another with a listening ear, planning for safe travel and outings and relationships, and overall, putting out best foot forward in the game of life (even life to life where many say the point system and team circles are cumulative and for our spiritual growth as much as any physical benefit.)

 Not easy to remember during the trying times but again, a rainbow of promise and hope for a brighter day. May peace be the legacy of all who knew Diane and who come to know her and her family through this turn of events. While we don't know many of the situations from over the years or even currently, whether in the same car accident (which this truly seems to be) or collision or other challenge, when we cross over we are all in the same 'end zone' yet that may really be a new beginning...

 Many psychics and belief systems speak to this more in the past few decades so worth googling such as Marc Anthony, the psychic lawyer. Learning the theories before you may need them is very helpful, as is first aid for choking or other emergencies..

. Stop, drop and roll for fire  and make sure all people have the same common meeting spot lest someone return  to the scene only to perish (as happened to a couple of folks I've heard of over the years, or others getting badly hurt in the process...)

 Trust in God and Breathe slowly and deeply with a friend rather than turn to anguish and lose control completely can be helpful too...and again, only having gone through some of this more 'at a distance' (learning of our son's loss a couple of hours after his passing, and not really having to see the other kids for a day made it possible for me to draw on the ideas that we are still connected after the physical life ends, and/or that the  person is at peace...

 (Even if one doesn't believe in the spiritual ideally one can have some comfort with the idea the person is not in pain or  suffering...) Still, the human emotions unravel and the love and care one has in connection with that person as well as the echoes on one's life (not knowing what may resonate but accepting the array of feelings and ideas that may come forth or into one's awareness...) is all worth exploring. And no it is currently 'no one's job' to check in on the family (officially or even unofficially).

 Often the primary and secondary 'victims of loss' or people affected by the situation including rescue people deserve and need support..but often cannot ask for that and may not really know what they need. Easy does it but support and care offered and calls and such likely could be planned for as well..state by state and town by town. 

Then the details and other efforts could be factored in. If there is a larger situation (bigger fire, pile-up, sink hole,flood etc, those also could be coordinated for care outreach by neighboring groups and states.) See more on my blog www.livfully.org and share your thoughts as you may feel led even anonymously or with others in your circles or on other sites, etc,

J