From an email from Wendy Newman, Dating Coach...(I am not an affiliate but hope more get help in this important area of life.) Also check out what Lisa Garr does and many others on this blog I've had a chance to listen to over the last decade.
See a post I wrote early on called "Check List for Chicks and Guys" too..and 'easier said than done' but keep fine tuning your safety, boundaries, support and accountablity team and see what's on rainn.com and on DV sites (but know that many 'experts' cannot speak to many key issues, so see what LundyBancroft.com and others say Before Getting in