From a public FB forum, I got a response to the previous post (a shortened version of it...)
"Catherine, you've offered a lot of food for thought here, and I'm so sorry about the loss of your brave son. I must however, take exception to your sweeping generalization about social service agencies blaming the victim and siding with the abuser. As a social worker and foster parent, I can assure you that each situation is assessed on an individual basis with the well being of the child and safety of the abused paramount.