A few ideas about PLANNING for Romance and taking Healthy Breaks, having Support and More..

There are a few posts here that 'go together, this is the middle one.." but each makes sense and merits attention from those living with others, even working together or getting romantically involved or in the family way. I think before we try to fix the broken system currently in place to monitor and respond to crisis (which varies widely among states and how implemented with little real follow through or remediation guaranteed of abusive parties), we need to hear ideas of 'being very cautious about getting seriously involved with someone romantically, have serious discussions online at least with 'wake up websites' about the costs and expectations of a couple that is intimate or living together or owning things together, the responsibilities of having children (or even using in vitro and creating embryos for future use..what happens to them if there is a disagreement or separation, etc?), and of course once a woman is pregnant what are her risk factors for abuse (just so more doctors and women can try to face the reality of a variety of types of abuse, emotional, financial, sexual, social, isolation-wise with limited use of phone, few rides or supports, etc,

Physical abuse and intimidation (yellling, threats of harm or hurting pets, kids, family, her, etc, rages, one-time or more physical assault which raises the overall 'worry level from them on for years on end even if it was an isolated incident...' and so on, mental health and drug use issues impacting a family, low income or other strains..most are not noted during a pregnancy or pediatric visits, though some agencies are realizing the key to Prevention is a huge opportunity even if needing education and repetition for years or decades..it takes a woman "7 times" of actually  trying (likely spending hundreds of hours wondering and strategizing even getting some breaks or dealing with various crazy scenarios) to leave before being able to do so usually... but maybe that could change if ALL WOMEN aspired to get away for a day..and then a weekend etc or one day a week for a couple of hours etc and learn about strategies for self care and safety.

Men could also get to such programs to learn about the history of domestic violence and that their entire gender is being scrutinized for wrong use of power when they could be part of the solution. Apparently a mayor of Dallas or other leader there in TX has been advocating that men prioritize ending domestic violence for themselves rather that waiting for arrests and tragedies to garner people's attention and seek support for victims.