Time for Every Buddy to Learn to WALK AWAY from trouble that comes up or that's brewing longterm...
This refers to a painful story covered on Yahoo News from 15 years ago in 2000. This tragic tale serves as a national and worldwide warning about a man (but it could have been a woman or youth) killing a small infant--maybe in part triggered by his inability to handle the stress of the infant's crying that night as well as for many hours a day for a few weeks prior.
The stress and lack of comprehension of the special needs and care required for a child, particularly one with extra medical or nutritional issues should be addressed by a team of caring, capable outreach workers and steadfast support. This kind of discussion is meant to honor the life of one of America's and the world's littlest heroes as so many kids are. We need to do everything possible to accept the reality that parents often are coping with more than they can readily handle.
Too often the overall 'logic or mandate' that THE PARENTS are RESPONSIBLE for their children that they brought into this world is used at the 11th if not first commandment. That should not be so any longer (if ever it were valid). A person had inalienable rights and one should have a caregiver who can help monitor one's basic standard of living and offer assistance to any who will take it to keep stress and strain (and even laundry and garbage) from piling up. Not everyone knows how to ask for help, realize they need it even for some respite or breaks along the way.
This was widely the case back when the unbalanced Andrea Yates ended the lives of her five children in Texas even after many people had realized she had serious mental health issues, was highly religious, isolated and yet living with a husband who never realized she needed extensive practical and mental health help in caring for such young children even with enough money to provide basics for them.
Too often perfectionistic (and yes, often religious) people can feel they'd punish their children into behaving within 'an inch of their lives' and spank, abuse, threaten or harm them 'for their own good' (which is a seminal book by Alice Miller tracing the history of beating the devil out of a child who was assumed to be imperfect from birth and needing reprimanding in highly punitive ways to get them to turn our right and good.)
The biological father in this heartbreaking case seemed capable and caring (and worked as cook at the time) and supposedly had not harmed the 2-year-old boy who he was not related to biologically yet who lived with them. This man (not necessary to really refer to him as more than the biological father when such abuse happens since the contract part of being a father nowadays precludes being abusive and that also goes with being a husband or partner of more than a legal or societal ranking. One loses the title or connection of esteem if one 'crosses the line', making contracts null and void even if they are still 'legally binding'. The 'killing Dad' with a hidden streak of aggression is John Langdon of MI whose likely to be released having served half of a 33 year sentence the mother of the infant wanted him to serve completely. Again, that could have been 'anyone' on a certain scale-- being human, alone and frustrated with a child or other more vulnerable could put someone in the realm of theoretically and maybe even physically being able (even accidentally such as falling down stairs with a child if steps are slippery or carrying two at once, etc) to harm the child if not oneself.
The arena of 'I didn't see it coming or anticipate the likelihood of such a turn of events' is what I am exploring here..and in other posts I do promote the idea of learning lessons As Though This Happened in Your Area or Circle of Awareness and really try to let it speak to you as a motivator to prevent such harm in thought, word or deed at both the Toltec and Christian teachings of Jesus and many other faiths promote. That's the balancing act one has a lifetime to improve upon...controlling one's thoughts, planning one's day and live in ways to prevent stress and harm to self or others, and to make amends, both asking and giving forgiveness over time for healing of all concerned.
Now back to this case of this precious soul Jeremy who crossed over from trauma and being on life support for 11 days, then breathing on his own with much difficulty then passing over. The father John confessed to the police and his wife after denying hurting him two days prior or that night initially. He said "he was hurting him before he realized what he was doing" (something I've heard other aggressors claim and realize can be true to some extent)...
The 'how did it happen thinking/ reaction versus thoughtful response options is what needs tending to in terms of really trying to understand the Warning signs of one's own thinking or lifestyle that would allow for stress or even 'opportunity' such as being alone with someone who is vulnerable whether child, elder, other person one could overpower or harm.)
In this case, the father had abused the little preemie two nights before doing so again because 'he couldn't stand the crying'.
The message for anyone who 'can't stand a noise' is #1 Cover Your Ears (and count to ten or twenty a few times if you can't Walk Away, at least to another room and close the door between you and the sound--crying, yelling etc).
Kids with a Dad yelling or intimidating through actions, gestures, breaking stuff etc (or a Mom if she has that luxury or has a problem she hasn't learned to control..and depending on the relationship the gender roles could be reversed, especially if someone has a drug or mental health disorder...).
Okay, so there is a A LOT for everyone to talk about and while this case happened over a decade ago, the public level of awareness of stress for new or parents of young ones had not been discussed..some say 'lack of funding even for those in crisis'.
Some maternity and medical docs or therapists will say 'women give as good as they get' as though that sums up the whole problems of male violence and coercive control over women, both individually, socially and politically for decades (actually thousands of years not just hundreds) in Western civilization and Eastern too.. that about spells complete oppression for women and kids the world over...but for today, think about only being around safe people and hold yourself to that standard too of being accountable and 'supervised' if there's any doubt you'd cross a line, even with pets...
This is a painful story and warning.
While the father of this precious soul Jeremy said "he was hurting him before he realized what he was doing" (something I've heard other aggressors claim and realize can be true to some extent)...
The 'how did it happen thinking/ reaction versus thoughtful response options is what needs tending to in terms of really trying to understand the Warning signs of one's own thinking or lifestyle that would allow for stress or even 'opportunity' such as being alone with someone who is vulnerable whether child, elder, other person one could overpower or harm.)
In this case, the father had abused the little preemie two nights before doing so again because 'he couldn't stand the crying'.
The message for anyone who 'can't stand a noise' is #1 Cover Your Ears (and count to ten or twenty a few times if you can't Walk Away, at least to another room and close the door between you and the sound--crying, yelling etc).
Kids with a Dad yelling or intimidating through actions, gestures, breaking stuff etc (or a Mom if she has that luxury or has a problem she hasn't learned to control..and depending on the relationship the gender roles could be reversed, especially if someone has a drug or mental health disorder...).
Okay, so there is a A LOT for everyone to talk about and while this case happened over a decade ago, the public level of awareness of stress for new or parents of young ones had not been discussed..some say 'lack of funding even for those in crisis'.
Some maternity and medical docs or therapists will say 'women give as good as they get' as though that sums up the whole problems of male violence and coercive control over women, both individually, socially and politically for decades (actually thousands of years not just hundreds) in Western civilization and Eastern too.. that about spells complete oppression for women and kids the world over...but for today, think about only being around safe people and hold yourself to that standard too of being accountable and 'supervised' if there's any doubt you'd cross a line, even with pets...This is a painful story and warning.
While the father of this precious soul Jeremy said "he was hurting him before he realized what he was doing" (something I've heard other aggressors claim and realize can be true to some extent)...
The 'how did it happen thinking/ reaction versus thoughtful response options is what needs tending to in terms of really trying to understand the Warning signs of one's own thinking or lifestyle that would allow for stress or even 'opportunity' such as being alone with someone who is vulnerable whether child, elder, other person one could overpower or harm.)
In this case, the father had abused the little preemie two nights before doing so again because 'he couldn't stand the crying'.
The message for anyone who 'can't stand a noise' is #1 Cover Your Ears (and count to ten or twenty a few times if you can't Walk Away, at least to another room and close the door between you and the sound--crying, yelling etc).
Kids with a Dad yelling or intimidating through actions, gestures, breaking stuff etc (or a Mom if she has that luxury or has a problem she hasn't learned to control..and depending on the relationship the gender roles could be reversed, especially if someone has a drug or mental health disorder...).
Okay, so there is a A LOT for everyone to talk about and while this case happened over a decade ago, the public level of awareness of stress for new or parents of young ones had not been discussed..some say 'lack of funding even for those in crisis'.
Some maternity and medical docs or therapists will say 'women give as good as they get' as though that sums up the whole problems of male violence and coercive control over women, both individually, socially and politically for decades (actually thousands of years not just hundreds) in Western civilization and Eastern too.. that about spells complete oppression for women and kids the world over...but for today, think about only being around safe people and hold yourself to that standard too of being accountable and 'supervised' if there's any doubt you'd cross a line, even with pets...This is a painful story and warning.
While the father of this precious soul Jeremy said "he was hurting him before he realized what he was doing" (something I've heard other aggressors claim and realize can be true to some extent)...
The 'how did it happen thinking/ reaction versus thoughtful response options is what needs tending to in terms of really trying to understand the Warning signs of one's own thinking or lifestyle that would allow for stress or even 'opportunity' such as being alone with someone who is vulnerable whether child, elder, other person one could overpower or harm.)
In this case, the father had abused the little preemie two nights before doing so again because 'he couldn't stand the crying'.
The message for anyone who 'can't stand a noise' is #1 Cover Your Ears (and count to ten or twenty a few times if you can't Walk Away, at least to another room and close the door between you and the sound--crying, yelling etc).
Kids with a Dad yelling or intimidating through actions, gestures, breaking stuff etc (or a Mom if she has that luxury or has a problem she hasn't learned to control..and depending on the relationship the gender roles could be reversed, especially if someone has a drug or mental health disorder...).
Okay, so there is a A LOT for everyone to talk about and while this case happened over a decade ago, the public level of awareness of stress for new or parents of young ones had not been discussed..some say 'lack of funding even for those in crisis'.
Some maternity and medical docs or therapists will say 'women give as good as they get' as though that sums up the whole problems of male violence and coercive control over women, both individually, socially and politically for decades (actually thousands of years not just hundreds) in Western civilization and Eastern too.. that about spells complete oppression for women and kids the world over...but for today, think about only being around safe people and hold yourself to that standard too of being accountable and 'supervised' if there's any doubt you'd cross a line, even with pets...This is a painful story and warning.
While the father of this precious soul Jeremy said "he was hurting him before he realized what he was doing" (something I've heard other aggressors claim and realize can be true to some extent)...
The 'how did it happen thinking/ reaction versus thoughtful response options is what needs tending to in terms of really trying to understand the Warning signs of one's own thinking or lifestyle that would allow for stress or even 'opportunity' such as being alone with someone who is vulnerable whether child, elder, other person one could overpower or harm.)
In this case, the father had abused the little preemie two nights before doing so again because 'he couldn't stand the crying'.
The message for anyone who 'can't stand a noise' is #1 Cover Your Ears (and count to ten or twenty a few times if you can't Walk Away, at least to another room and close the door between you and the sound--crying, yelling etc).
Kids with a Dad yelling or intimidating through actions, gestures, breaking stuff etc (or a Mom if she has that luxury or has a problem she hasn't learned to control..and depending on the relationship the gender roles could be reversed, especially if someone has a drug or mental health disorder...).
Okay, so there is a A LOT for everyone to talk about and while this case happened over a decade ago, the public level of awareness of stress for new or parents of young ones had not been discussed..some say 'lack of funding even for those in crisis'.
Some maternity and medical docs or therapists will say 'women give as good as they get' as though that sums up the whole problems of male violence and coercive control over women, both individually, socially and politically for decades (actually thousands of years not just hundreds) in Western civilization and Eastern too.. that about spells complete oppression for women and kids the world over...but for today, think about only being around safe people and hold yourself to that standard too of being accountable and 'supervised' if there's any doubt you'd cross a line, even with pets...This is a painful story and warning.
While the father of this precious soul Jeremy said "he was hurting him before he realized what he was doing" (something I've heard other aggressors claim and realize can be true to some extent)...
The 'how did it happen thinking/ reaction versus thoughtful response options is what needs tending to in terms of really trying to understand the Warning signs of one's own thinking or lifestyle that would allow for stress or even 'opportunity' such as being alone with someone who is vulnerable whether child, elder, other person one could overpower or harm.)
In this case, the father had abused the little preemie two nights before doing so again because 'he couldn't stand the crying'.
The message for anyone who 'can't stand a noise' is #1 Cover Your Ears (and count to ten or twenty a few times if you can't Walk Away, at least to another room and close the door between you and the sound--crying, yelling etc).
Kids with a Dad yelling or intimidating through actions, gestures, breaking stuff etc (or a Mom if she has that luxury or has a problem she hasn't learned to control..and depending on the relationship the gender roles could be reversed, especially if someone has a drug or mental health disorder...).
Okay, so there is a A LOT for everyone to talk about and while this case happened over a decade ago, the public level of awareness of stress for new or parents of young ones had not been discussed..some say 'lack of funding even for those in crisis'.
Some maternity and medical docs or therapists will say 'women give as good as they get' as though that sums up the whole problems of male violence and coercive control over women, both individually, socially and politically for decades (actually thousands of years not just hundreds) in Western civilization and Eastern too.. that about spells complete oppression for women and kids the world over...but for today, think about only being around safe people and hold yourself to that standard too of being accountable and 'supervised' if there's any doubt you'd cross a line, even with pets...This is a painful story and warning.
While the father of this precious soul Jeremy said "he was hurting him before he realized what he was doing" (something I've heard other aggressors claim and realize can be true to some extent)...
The 'how did it happen thinking/ reaction versus thoughtful response options is what needs tending to in terms of really trying to understand the Warning signs of one's own thinking or lifestyle that would allow for stress or even 'opportunity' such as being alone with someone who is vulnerable whether child, elder, other person one could overpower or harm.)
In this case, the father had abused the little preemie two nights before doing so again because 'he couldn't stand the crying'.
The message for anyone who 'can't stand a noise' is #1 Cover Your Ears (and count to ten or twenty a few times if you can't Walk Away, at least to another room and close the door between you and the sound--crying, yelling etc).
Kids with a Dad yelling or intimidating through actions, gestures, breaking stuff etc (or a Mom if she has that luxury or has a problem she hasn't learned to control..and depending on the relationship the gender roles could be reversed, especially if someone has a drug or mental health disorder...).
Okay, so there is a A LOT for everyone to talk about and while this case happened over a decade ago, the public level of awareness of stress for new or parents of young ones had not been discussed..some say 'lack of funding even for those in crisis'.
Some maternity and medical docs or therapists will say 'women give as good as they get' as though that sums up the whole problems of male violence and coercive control over women, both individually, socially and politically for decades (actually thousands of years not just hundreds) in Western civilization and Eastern too.. that about spells complete oppression for women and kids the world over...but for today, think about only being around safe people and hold yourself to that standard too of being accountable and 'supervised' if there's any doubt you'd cross a line, even with pets...
This is a painful story and warning.
While the father of this precious soul Jeremy said "he was hurting him before he realized what he was doing" (something I've heard other aggressors claim and realize can be true to some extent)...
The 'how did it happen thinking/ reaction versus thoughtful response options is what needs tending to in terms of really trying to understand the Warning signs of one's own thinking or lifestyle that would allow for stress or even 'opportunity' such as being alone with someone who is vulnerable whether child, elder, other person one could overpower or harm.)
In this case, the father had abused the little preemie two nights before doing so again because 'he couldn't stand the crying'.
The message for anyone who 'can't stand a noise' is #1 Cover Your Ears (and count to ten or twenty a few times if you can't Walk Away, at least to another room and close the door between you and the sound--crying, yelling etc).
Kids with a Dad yelling or intimidating through actions, gestures, breaking stuff etc (or a Mom if she has that luxury or has a problem she hasn't learned to control..and depending on the relationship the gender roles could be reversed, especially if someone has a drug or mental health disorder...).
Okay, so there is a A LOT for everyone to talk about and while this case happened over a decade ago, the public level of awareness of stress for new or parents of young ones had not been discussed..some say 'lack of funding even for those in crisis'.
Some maternity and medical docs or therapists will say 'women give as good as they get' as though that sums up the whole problems of male violence and coercive control over women, both individually, socially and politically for decades (actually thousands of years not just hundreds) in Western civilization and Eastern too.. that about spells complete oppression for women and kids the world over...but for today, think about only being around safe people and hold yourself to that standard too of being accountable and 'supervised' if there's any doubt you'd cross a line, even with pets...This is a painful story and warning.
While the father of this precious soul Jeremy said "he was hurting him before he realized what he was doing" (something I've heard other aggressors claim and realize can be true to some extent)...
The 'how did it happen thinking/ reaction versus thoughtful response options is what needs tending to in terms of really trying to understand the Warning signs of one's own thinking or lifestyle that would allow for stress or even 'opportunity' such as being alone with someone who is vulnerable whether child, elder, other person one could overpower or harm.)
In this case, the father had abused the little preemie two nights before doing so again because 'he couldn't stand the crying'.
The message for anyone who 'can't stand a noise' is #1 Cover Your Ears (and count to ten or twenty a few times if you can't Walk Away, at least to another room and close the door between you and the sound--crying, yelling etc).
Kids with a Dad yelling or intimidating through actions, gestures, breaking stuff etc (or a Mom if she has that luxury or has a problem she hasn't learned to control..and depending on the relationship the gender roles could be reversed, especially if someone has a drug or mental health disorder...).
Okay, so there is a A LOT for everyone to talk about and while this case happened over a decade ago, the public level of awareness of stress for new or parents of young ones had not been discussed..some say 'lack of funding even for those in crisis'.
Some maternity and medical docs or therapists will say 'women give as good as they get' as though that sums up the whole problems of male violence and coercive control over women, both individually, socially and politically for decades (actually thousands of years not just hundreds) in Western civilization and Eastern too.. that about spells complete oppression for women and kids the world over...but for today, think about only being around safe people and hold yourself to that standard too of being accountable and 'supervised' if there's any doubt you'd cross a line, even with pets...This is a painful story and warning.
While the father of this precious soul Jeremy said "he was hurting him before he realized what he was doing" (something I've heard other aggressors claim and realize can be true to some extent)...
The 'how did it happen thinking/ reaction versus thoughtful response options is what needs tending to in terms of really trying to understand the Warning signs of one's own thinking or lifestyle that would allow for stress or even 'opportunity' such as being alone with someone who is vulnerable whether child, elder, other person one could overpower or harm.)
In this case, the father had abused the little preemie two nights before doing so again because 'he couldn't stand the crying'.
The message for anyone who 'can't stand a noise' is #1 Cover Your Ears (and count to ten or twenty a few times if you can't Walk Away, at least to another room and close the door between you and the sound--crying, yelling etc).
Kids with a Dad yelling or intimidating through actions, gestures, breaking stuff etc (or a Mom if she has that luxury or has a problem she hasn't learned to control..and depending on the relationship the gender roles could be reversed, especially if someone has a drug or mental health disorder...).
Okay, so there is a A LOT for everyone to talk about and while this case happened over a decade ago, the public level of awareness of stress for new or parents of young ones had not been discussed..some say 'lack of funding even for those in crisis'.
Some maternity and medical docs or therapists will say 'women give as good as they get' as though that sums up the whole problems of male violence and coercive control over women, both individually, socially and politically for decades (actually thousands of years not just hundreds) in Western civilization and Eastern too.. that about spells complete oppression for women and kids the world over...but for today, think about only being around safe people and hold yourself to that standard too of being accountable and 'supervised' if there's any doubt you'd cross a line, even with pets...This is a painful story and warning.
While the father of this precious soul Jeremy said "he was hurting him before he realized what he was doing" (something I've heard other aggressors claim and realize can be true to some extent)...
The 'how did it happen thinking/ reaction versus thoughtful response options is what needs tending to in terms of really trying to understand the Warning signs of one's own thinking or lifestyle that would allow for stress or even 'opportunity' such as being alone with someone who is vulnerable whether child, elder, other person one could overpower or harm.)
In this case, the father had abused the little preemie two nights before doing so again because 'he couldn't stand the crying'.
The message for anyone who 'can't stand a noise' is #1 Cover Your Ears (and count to ten or twenty a few times if you can't Walk Away, at least to another room and close the door between you and the sound--crying, yelling etc).
Kids with a Dad yelling or intimidating through actions, gestures, breaking stuff etc (or a Mom if she has that luxury or has a problem she hasn't learned to control..and depending on the relationship the gender roles could be reversed, especially if someone has a drug or mental health disorder...).
Okay, so there is a A LOT for everyone to talk about and while this case happened over a decade ago, the public level of awareness of stress for new or parents of young ones had not been discussed..some say 'lack of funding even for those in crisis'.
Some maternity and medical docs or therapists will say 'women give as good as they get' as though that sums up the whole problems of male violence and coercive control over women, both individually, socially and politically for decades (actually thousands of years not just hundreds) in Western civilization and Eastern too.. that about spells complete oppression for women and kids the world over...but for today, think about only being around safe people and hold yourself to that standard too of being accountable and 'supervised' if there's any doubt you'd cross a line, even with pets...This is a painful story and warning.
While the father of this precious soul Jeremy said "he was hurting him before he realized what he was doing" (something I've heard other aggressors claim and realize can be true to some extent)...
The 'how did it happen thinking/ reaction versus thoughtful response options is what needs tending to in terms of really trying to understand the Warning signs of one's own thinking or lifestyle that would allow for stress or even 'opportunity' such as being alone with someone who is vulnerable whether child, elder, other person one could overpower or harm.)
In this case, the father had abused the little preemie two nights before doing so again because 'he couldn't stand the crying'.
The message for anyone who 'can't stand a noise' is #1 Cover Your Ears (and count to ten or twenty a few times if you can't Walk Away, at least to another room and close the door between you and the sound--crying, yelling etc).
Kids with a Dad yelling or intimidating through actions, gestures, breaking stuff etc (or a Mom if she has that luxury or has a problem she hasn't learned to control..and depending on the relationship the gender roles could be reversed, especially if someone has a drug or mental health disorder...).
Okay, so there is a A LOT for everyone to talk about and while this case happened over a decade ago, the public level of awareness of stress for new or parents of young ones had not been discussed..some say 'lack of funding even for those in crisis'.
Some maternity and medical docs or therapists will say 'women give as good as they get' as though that sums up the whole problems of male violence and coercive control over women, both individually, socially and politically for decades (actually thousands of years not just hundreds) in Western civilization and Eastern too.. that about spells complete oppression for women and kids the world over...but for today, think about only being around safe people and hold yourself to that standard too of being accountable and 'supervised' if there's any doubt you'd cross a line, even with pets...
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