Thanks to All Supporting One Another in Community Endeavors, Wellness and Self-Care and even $upport!

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on Thu, 09/17/2020 - 15:24

Hello, a note about this whopper of a post. It started out calmly and as a quick summary of a few ideas and as I get typing as happens from time to time.. I got a lot of ideas and spelled them out. Pace yourself and read as may be helpful...I know long posts are a challenge but so is digging for gold.

Thanks to all supporting this blog and my other endeavors. If you'd like to donate or send ideas along for support or for me to include ,email me please at cppaton@yahoo.com or donate at paypal.me/CathPalmPaton. Many thanks and have a Super September 2020. A heads-up too, some of the topics in this post are difficult to consider but important 'not to forget about.' Hope people reading have support for any of the issues raised and can find help at 211.org and by calling that number on the phone, yes 2-1-1, or in NYC 311.org or 3-1-1.

If there is a need for police, fire department or emergency help medically or otherwise, call 9-1-1. It's important not to be sick and not know what one has since there are types of food poisoning or picking up bacteria or being bit by a tick that can be serious quickly, so Get Checked Out if in Doubt. Also take care with all things CV19, safety in relationships in general and tons of other stuff. HugEnergy and Big thank-you's to all working, studying and going about life with care and that extra effort in these pandemic times. You are valuable to yourself and deeply appreciated by others so hope you feel the love!

This week of September 18th, 2020 in The Lakeville Journal of CT I have a letter to the Editor regarding the International Day of Peace or World Peace Day as it is commonly called. That was established a few decades ago to have a day of cease fire in wars, allow for humanitarian aid, and decrease or pause violence (hopefully that can catch on at the grassroots level in countries, cities, towns, military, school and work places as well as places of religion and any other communities and even family trees and branches as it were...even neighbors and people themselves can 'take a pause for peace'.

With all that said, I am planning to do some Zoom Meetings so email me at cppaton@ yahoo.com if you'd like to join in one soon to celebrate the World Peace Day and Community Building Process. This is The Big Launch even though it's quite humble. The letter in the newspaper is in the online version as well as in print so the whole community magically has heard of it in a timely way, like the ringing of the Peace Bell which is part of the celebration on that day.

Consider making time to take a walk, have a quiet meal or talk with a friend on the phone if not in person for a few minutes or more each day. I thought of a schedule to lead into that time and will hold a zoom meeting for a half hour each day at these times...Friday Sept 18th at 10am. Saturday Sept 19th at 11am, Sunday Sept 20th at Noon. Monday Sept 21st at 1pm and Tuesday Sept 22nd at 2pm. Thereafter I will take time in my own world and maybe with some who have shown up to continue to 'take 30 min for Peace and Connecting" on Wed Sept.23rd at 3pm, Thurs Sept 24th at 4pm, Friday Sept 25th at 5pm, Saturday, Sept 26th at 6pm, Sunday Sept 27th at 7pm, Mon Sept 28th at 1pm, Tues Sept 29th at 2pm, Wed Sept 30th at 3pm, Thur Oct 1st at 4pm, Friday Oct 2nd at 5pm, Sat Oct 3rd at 6pm, Sun Oct 4th at 7pm. (I include this info at the end too so you won't forget...) Remember there is no quiz on this so maybe pace the rest of this over the next week or two!

Treating animals well, giving some positive thinking toward 'slowing down, taking a few deep breaths and even putting one's hand on one's heart to remember the great amount of connection and commonality we share as living, breathing, caring, capable people on the planet and supported and inspired by nature and animals on many levels...and possibly other caring souls and beings we cannot see but many can sense and tell of in their dreams, legends, connections and waking world as well.

I will be sharing the letter on Livfully.org here by next week but the main point is that the annual date for World Peace Day is September 21st. That happens to be a Monday this year (so maybe celebrate earlier or as you can this month of even next!) It's also coming on the heels of Rosh Hashanah which starts Friday the 18th at sundown and continues Sunday the 20th. Worth learning more about that and Yom Kippur which runs from Sunday Sept 27th at sundown to Monday Sept 28th at sundown.I didn't realize those exact dates before I wrote the rest of this post but appreciate the traditions and all who are taking time to pace themselves and their year and time to include connection, reflection, celebration, healing and forgiveness for themselves and others with guidance and love from above as well.

I have lots I share on this Livfully.org blog worth appreciating and discussing with others. Much of my sharing and life is informed by real folks in my lifetime particularly from living in small friendly towns, in New Haven CT, then Fairfield CT and Poughkeepsie NY before returning to the small northwest corner towns of CT near the Berkshires.

Bridging gaps and creating helpful networks for supporting one another in the basics, education, building skills and meaningful relationships and friendships are all coming into focus for more people as the pandemic has redefined much of our society. I explore similar themes even if on a much larger scale having lived a few years in Brooklyn NY. Lots of important aspects of 'making sense of living and sharing resources' when you have millions of people living near water and without much open space. They build up not out down there but many local businesses and people find they cannot stay in the area. Let's keep watch over one another as many leaders and groups do but succeed in helpful ways with all people getting involved and connected with advocacy.

I hope more people are aware of the seasonal community events in their area and can be inspired by those in the tri-corner MA/NY CT area that I have covered and which help create a friendly rural culture with plenty of people from NYC having second homes here and pitching in as well. The Lakeville Journal of CT has digital copies online going back decades so that is a rich resource for our area and even our country and world to see how things were run over time and hopefully improved, particularly with the special coverage of The Peter Reilly Case

. The advocacy for the truth and justice for the wrongly accused teen in the death of his mother factored into the better way police interrogations of suspects are supposed to be done. Also all citizens should realize it can be very complicated to speak to the police on any matter so one should have an attorney or other clear advocacy even as someone speaking about a case whether criminal or accidental. The risk of rumors and ill will following any loss or difficulty is high especially in smaller towns.

There's more on that in other posts here on Livfully.org. Perhaps by using the term "What IF something' went in one direction or another or if a person felt one way about another, or how might communication be held to address a personal or community concern. The realm of therapies, plays, human world views and historical context is all pertinent

. Factors of a person's life pattern are also valuable to consider to build integrity and give evidence that one is doing what one says in general and particularly in social, work or other relationships since there can be disconnects and confusion. Accountability is key with as much documentation as to one's whereabouts, caregiving, working, travelling, shopping and spending, etc as possible.

Often someone lying will make an innocent person have to defend themselves against 'lies and innuendos' so even knowing where to begin can be a challenge. In court cases unfortunately abusive men have been found to gain custody of their children 8 out of 10 times.

That is not good news for anyone but the abuser but even then they often are damaging others including their children and even themselves. In the most extreme cases if a man kills the mother and or children, he kills himself.

That can happen during a time of impending separation or even months or years later, so that particular type of decline and crime merits everyone's concerns and intentions to comprehend and heal the breakdown in a system that fails to protect the most vulnerable and even the men who are highly unstable and controlling over others. The numbers are large, about 1000 mothers killed annually and 200 children with about 300 men ending their lives. That is not even linking the numbers of cancer or other serious illness to the stress of being abused, but likely that number is up there too.

Another thousand women who are not mothers are also killed by their 'boyfriend, husband, or partner' so that is 2000 women losing their lives annually by someone in their lives (not necessarily staying do to love or volition but often threats and hopes to protect their children or a kind of basic economic survival.)

Some women don't want to bring shame to the man in their life, their family or even be identified as abused or divorced. That is particularly true in religious circles or other groups with a set of guidelines if not rules to 'stay married or together' at great cost, even if abused or otherwise compromised.

All of these factors including finding ways to provide adequate food and housing to each person could be a special team effort. If storms or floods create the widespread need to relocate, surely our country and every other one as well could find ways to allow people, primarily women and children to find safe places to dwell.

Even seasonal camping would be a boost in mindset and help people network and learn about cooperatively getting some basic needs met. Ideally that would allow for separate accommodations for women and children and others for men, or variations of supervised safe interactions for part of the day, online and on the phone communication and when appropriate in person interactions as well. When people have pets or farm animals that would be another area to address to meet basic care needs of the animals.

There are some groups working along these lines, but ideally every country, state and town could encourage people to find ways to have immediate and longer term ways to intervene or offer support to each member in a community, from the earliest ages on up. Good nutrition for pregnant women and those wanting to have a baby would be a valuable way to invest in the health and well-being as well as safety and good brain development of growing infants in-utero

The whole debate about when an infant is deemed a person is important to consider as more information comes forward even though there are legal protections for women to abort throughout the pregnancy and in some places as the infant is delivered.

These are difficult topics but again ones for each generation to help people understand and find ways to help avoid with widespread education about birth control and access to it affordably and ideally for free. Then the options for adoptions particularly within a given community if not family and friends network could be explored with funding given to all people to afford full time care for any child whether in daycare or in private care situations. Many people feel they 'cannot afford' another child so are aborting an unplanned pregnancy for that reason.

The huge amounts of fear, concern, worry and the physical risk and stress to the mother are all important factors for more public discussions to explore and more videos with actors describing situations that can be difficult to bring up or anticipate.

A more complete set of guidelines for addressing any situation may be online but more people could benefit from access to the internet with enough time and coaching to understand what would be helpful to plan learning about particularly before the teen years and even into early adulthood. Then hopefully there would be a good traction going into later adult years to feel at ease with networking and knowing of support systems and strategies to help oneself and advocate for others. A real team effort, particularly if things become troubling and compicated!

The businesses that contribute to the taxes or provide employment such as the private schools and other non-profits and faith groups enrich the area as well. In the Northwest Corner of Ct and Tri-Corner MA/NY CT area those include Hotchkiss and Indian Mountain Schools, Kent School and Marvelwood (which is allowing Kildonan to join with it to provide more support for students with special learning needs), Berkshire School, Salisbury School, and area colleges such as Berkshire Community College in Great Barrington MA (with the main campus in Pittsfield), Vassar College in Poughkeepsie along with Marist and Dutchess Community College and other training schools such as BOCES, NCCC Northwestern CT Community College and some wonderful theatre venues such as The Warner Theatre in Torrington CT and Sharon Playhouse as well as Mahaiwe Theater in Great Barrington MA. The Moviehouse in Millerton NY as well as free forums such as The Salisbury Forum, The Taconic Learning Center, OLLI Older Learner League Institute and Kripalu in Lenox MA as well as Omega in Rhinebeck along with many churches and faith groups in each town really round out the offerings for people to learn and connect in person as well as virtually.

With more daycares and homecare options, nursing home and elder services, some of which are on the decline or ending due to COVID19 concerns, there is room to appreciate the real needs of supervising and caring for people with special needs.

The legal systems used for family matters and preventing escalation of violence need to be better understood not only by victims and perpetrators of abuse and violence, but the professional and wider community that are doing the important public safety jobs and expecting a high level of civility and competency. That stands true for medical practitioners and abuse prevention advocates as well.

The Sharon Hosptial, Charlotte Hungerford Hosptital and Fairview Hospital as well as Vassar Brothers all offer important services which need to be as up-to-date as possible with independent assessments as do the legal and judicial field and the advocates in each area of public service.

The layers of our society from the individual, any partnership or two people supporting one another on any level whether due to a biological relationship or social one, work, school or living situation, having a child or other person or even pet and farm animals to care for or property to maintain create the setting for connection but also sometimes conflict.

Tending to matters early and often to inform people of ways to assess and address concerns through a network or grapevine of 'warning signs, indicators of a negative peace where matters and relationships are confusing if not clearly conflicting or tense, all are under the umbrellas of 'public safety.

Everyone's business is another person's business when it comes to the difficult matters. Without 'naming names' the value of understanding if someone has an awareness of a problem (what are we pretending not to know, or what were we the last to learn about that we really should have had more insight into or been told by a friend or community team player?)

Why are people reluctant for instance to understand physical, mental, emotional and even values- related health and wellness guidelines and personality functions (the way people feel and behave the world. How does their personality (when they are awake and functioning fairly competently having eaten and gotten dressed for the day ) play out in general and interact with others and life situations as on a continuum described in The Enneagram for instance...)

These are helpful questions to shine a light on since there is more information about many things we don't generally think to observe that can be indicators not only of someone's thinking being limited or hostile without cause and possibly bullying others with a sense of entitlement but also could indicate a mental health or even physical health decline or stress.

Hormones and life stress as well as a life cycle can bring shifts about where one person is not 'acting like their usual self' or is not playing well with others (even if that was a pattern from childhood.) Often there can be impacts on one's life from ACEs Adverse Childhood Experiences, but that is not set in stone.

Then there are many factors influencing one's sense of wellness, blood sugar levels, blood pressure, weight and sleep cycles (which ideally should be in normal healthy ranges with the more stringent measures for preventing diabetes and high blood pressure. That is not how many aspects of the medical system are set up so often people with early symptoms are not informed even of mental decline or unsafe driving until there is an alarming event or major setback.)

Alternatively those dates from Mon-Wed could also include reflection time of the 28th at 8pm the 29th at 9pm and the 30th at 10 pm (just for fun to complete the month counting up to ten for these ten days of peace with that growing awareness of every hour adding up to realizing that intention or whatever else speaks to your heart and is helpful.

Another option is those could all be done at 7pm if time does not permit during the day as well to get to bed in a timely manner!

Instead of the day times or in addition to those all of the times keeping the pattern of 7pm nightly for each month is practical.

If one can take note of the time (and plan as may be helpful for oneself, one's family or friends or a group or wider online sense of connection or outreach and just to bring a more playful pacing to the days and month,) each date could be acknowledged with the corresponding hour of the number. Bear with me as I share what I am feeling may be helpful to share at this time. I realize it's a long post, but just pace yourself (as in life, can come back when it may be helpful or of interest.)

That would look like the following (with your own sense of what works ready to tweak or build on that...maybe make a calendar with a peace sign or happy face at each of these times...)

Then with Monday Oct. 5th the pattern could start with 1pm again, then Tues Oct 6th 2pm, Wed Oct 7th 3pm, Thur Oct 8th 4pm and Friday Oct 9th 5pm Sat Oct 10th 6pm and Sun Oct 11th 7pm. The cycle could repeat then for Mon Oct 12th at 1pm, Tue Oct 13th at 2pm, Wed Oct 14th at 3pm, Thur Oct 15th at 4pm, Friday Oct 16th at 5pm, Sat Oct 17th at 6pm and Sun Oct 18th at 7pm.

The next week would start off with Monday1pm Oct 19th, Tues 2pm Oct 20th, Wed 3pm Oct 21st, Thur 4pm Oct 22nd, Fri 5pm Oct 23rd, Sat 6pm Oct 24th, Sun 7pm Oct 25th. Then Repeat one more time... the idea of Monday is '1-day', Tuesday is 2-day, Wednesay is 3-day, Thursday is 4-day, Friday is 5-day, Saturday is 6-day and Sunday is 7-day can be helpful for kids going to school (even at home etc) or people going back to work Mon-Fri for a five-day school or work week or other program I developed that idea many years ago realizing kids would have gym Tues/ Thur, or art Mon/Wed but in terms of what we needed to prepare for the day before, it was helpful to think of Monday as the first day back to school then Tuesday as the next day after that (and what would they need to wear, bring etc specific to that day.)

The idea was also inspired by a Waldorf early childhood program idea of having children bring an apple to school for snack on Monday (so it was apple day), Then a vegetable on Tuesday (so veggie day) and so on. They would make applesause on Mondays and soup after the veggies were steamed so the kids could cut them on Tuesdays. Then on Wednesdays they would make breadsticks (someone would bring the dough) and Thursdays muffins were provided (so muffin day) and Friday fruit day (just adding that in as suggestion.) When there is a monthly calendar then a weekly or daily set of notes that is key to helping a person or small group of people coordinate and stay informed.

There may a need for two calendars side by side if there are lots of people and appt's to keep track of. Larger squares and using someone's initials helps (in a circle) with the time of an appointment. Then having a second calendar to reference is handy if the pages are hard to look ahead easily to the next month, so that could be a reason to hang up a second calendar with the next month on display next to the current month. I know that's a bit weird but it's also helpful to think a few weeks ahead which plenty of 'organized, aware' people do.

Many bid events or programs are planned months if not years in advance, then adjust accordingly. We are all seeing how that goes now in terms of 'having plans change.' But it was all a lot o of learning and earning having plans in place! Hopefully most people and businesses were able to write off losses, but we also see the huge changes with rents, bankruptcies, planes being put out to pasture and many services curtailed. Hopefully more people could record what they did do and how life was to help younger people know about 'the good ol' days.'

Thanks for letting me know if you'd like to join a zoom meeting by writing to cppaton@yahoo.com and include which town and state you are from with a shout out to someone in your community. I wll use first names only if that's preferred if you'd like me to share that during the meeting. I also welcome donations to help me get these efforts up and running or support in developing this kind of blog and community building effort at this critical time in our nation's and world's history.

Thanks for all people have done, particularly those volunteering in personal and community or school and faith roles and rescue services. All those working in those field are also deeply appreciated as are all parents and people putting their best foot forward for brighter days caring for themselves and others in balanced ways!

As one folk song goes, "All I really need is a song in my heart, food in my belly and love in my family (however defined even if not living under the same roof or on speaking terms...the energy and heart connection can surpass even the mortal division after death... that's not part of the song but was inspired to just now by it.) That would all include peace on earth and good will toward others. See some inspiring songs and verses from Folk-Legacy Records on youtube too to celebrate!

Thanks to all donating to good causes and helping others in their lives with thinking things through, making next step plans, implementing those, sharing resources including time, talent and treasure and even well-wishing. I appreciate tips and donations (let me know how you might want to help or even if there's an item or two you'd donate my way... and by the way I'm ready for a car to come my way or more funds to help balance my budget.

People can gift money to others tax-free up to 15K a year, so okay to think generously! My personal paypal is paypal.me/CathPalmPaton and again, many thanks for a donation of any amount.

Thanks in advance or as you get a chance to share these ideas and contribute your good energies, ideas and actions to making the world a friendlier, better functioning place now and for future generations! See what Lawyers Committee for 9/11 Iquiry offers on LCfor9/11.org to consider serious timely concerns as well, not only about AE911.org and the science about how the Twin Towers came down but also about possible biowarfare concerns we are not informed about generally. The People need and want to know, so let's join forces and learn and grow together in understanding critical timely matters! That's a zinger of an ending but really it's a valuable 'new start with widespread support and advocacy'. Now is the time to do just that!

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