Ted Talks, Big Public Challenges and More Personal Ones..Lucy Hone by Christchurch New Zealand

https://youtu.be/NWH8N-BvhAw "How we take our best info out of academia into real life" regarding resilience. There were earthquakes in Christchurch, New Zealand...Here are ways to boost resilience with the best info.Car accidents can be some of the harshest changes to face. She explores both, including from personal experience.

Family estrangement, divorce, mental health challenges and more. 'Victim support' may say it could take 5 years to recover from personal loss and grief (transition.) What she needed most was hope, a journey through the pain and anguish.  "Parental bereavement is one of the hardest forms' of challenge.

I would offer there likely is not enough attention for children, siblings and other close relatives...so let's change that. She gives more advice from what helped her and research shows. She says it briefly as resilient people know "terrible things happen to everyone, shit happens...".

We feel too entitled to a cushioned life, yet 'adversity doesn't discriminate.' Carefully focusing attention on the things they Can Change and accepting the things they 'can't change' (readily I would add...often in a dream or story format one can rewrite the reality with happier turns and outcomes even in our imagination and prayers if not in reality...that's my own response to what she shares...)

Changing attention to 'look for the benefits' even in difficult situations. Martin Seligman had run a study for six months to look for three positive things each day. That resulted in a better overall outlook. "in the army they spoke about 'hunting for the good stuff.' 

This talk popped up after one on accepting insults or difficult emotions..so I'll put that on here too...