"Sir, You Speak a Language I Understand NOT!" --from a Winter's Tale (Shakespeare) but most victims can relate

In terms of being able to relate to William Shakespeare's plays, full of grandeur and foul play, when it's time for truth-telling, all bets are off about who gets to speak to whom and in what setting.

Hermiones, a Queen, was accused by her husbandly King (in A Winter's Tale)of committing adultery with none other than his best lifelong friend.

And she was pregnant and the King's pal left, so she was thrown in jail. After she delivered her second born, the first being a young hopeful prince (heir to the throne) and she herself the daughter of a king, the babe was taken from her and left to die on a hillside. (I totally need to check that part in case it was told to me in an exaggerated fashion.)

Mind you, that she implores the King who puts her on trial for her crimes, to consider that there is no reason to imagine such things and that they are categorically false charges. Her life hangs in the balance and to defend her honor and tell her truth, she pleads "Not Guilty."

Her speech is one of a desperate honest woman. Her speech covers the points that she has always lived honorably up until his charges against her. She concedes she loved the friend of her husband only as was appropriate as his friend.

(No funny business or rendevouz with  him or anyone.) The language she uses covers an array of aspects as to her integrity and love for her husband and role as queen..until this terrible turn of events.

She pleads innocent of knowing where or why the king's friend (and his messenger) left without warning. Likely they did so because the King was certain in his own mind that they'd had an affair. His jealously or otherwise delusional mind was getting the best of him.

After declaring near the end of her testimony to the anything but rational or kind King, "Sir, You speak a language I understand not," Hermiones continues. "My life, stands in the level of your dreams, which I'll lay down."

Meaning he has pegged her in his site as a target and is dreaming she is to blame. She is ready to defend her innocence, words and honor with her life, saying it's not worth living without her children and place in the royal family should he insist on this being her fate. Talk about a miserable downward spiral of events.

Yet how many victims of abuse, whether in a spousal, maternal, or other role (yes for men that could be paternal) or other family or friend-related accusations. It's hard enough to come to grips with human foibles and problems that are in the making in an episodic or more chronic way, but if there are no grounds to make the charges or moreover to blame a victim for something (particularly something that Did Not happen) where is one to begin to address the matter?

These are timely considerations whether in personal circles or more public situations in one's community, state or nation. The Brett Kavanaugh and Dr. Ford investigation is echoing in many circles..

.How can he get away with what he did (if he indeed did it) is what he and his attorneys are strategizing about. Dr. Ford is being incredibly brave to step forward, as is another accuser from his Yale days. I imagine many joining me in wondering why he doesn't simply withdraw his application if he did it and it's clear the nation at this point in time would not choose to overlook transgressions from his youth. 

In this time of Black Lives Matter, Domestic Abuse Victims needing Advocacy such as in House Resolution 72 to keep women (the primary type of victim) safe and together with their mothers if there is alleged abuse, it's time to connect with the pleas of victims from history and make it clear that from now on there is no reason to back down when there is a way to share the truth (and not be further harmed by one's abuser...)

Sadly the reality is for victims of abuse, that day may not arrive in their lifetime..and speaking about the crimes they have suffered directly as well as those against their children, can cost them almost everything (huge legal fees, terrible social consequences and too often the loss of custody of their children and even access to them.)

The $500 million dollars in annual funding to Father's Rights Groups, Batterer Intervention Programs (which are Blips on the screen of media and in court houses that generally do not produce effective change for most but only require men to show up not necessarily take the information seriously about their choices and the consequences that await them if they continue.)

Too often women are blamed by Child Protective Services for not doing enough, not following through enough on various terms (which are often far more extensive than what men or fathers are expected to do.) I am summarizing points made by various advocates at BMCC (Battered Mothers Custody Conference, a national event to promote advocacy for victims such as through Civic Research Instittute books on Domestic Violence and Custody as well as on Representing the DV Survivor.)

By the time victims and even their small team of advocates learn that they need to know the court case could be history many years in the making (after the fact, not only before the custody or other difficult matter needed deciding or intervening. We need to raise the collective conscience about many aspects of our society that many expect will be there with Calvary at the reay to save women and children. It simply is not so. Think back to what Hermiones faced, and consider 'we have not come as far as we might imagine'.

The modern technology could likely create apps for dating, mating, relating and parting amicably...but there is more money and mayhem to be made in berating others, letting the pieces fall where they will. Let's hope that Dr. Ford can get the justice every victim, generally a female, deserves. No one is perfect and maybe there would be such an episode in the backgrounds of most apparently successful males.

Likely that would be a good reason to aim to put another woman who can speak to the dignity of each person's  life and review other kinds of shortcomings she has had but fell short of being criminal or worrisome in terms of intentionally jeapordizing someone's safety and breathing.

Covering Ms. Ford's mouth is a sign of wanting to silence her. In CT the definition of attempted strangulation has been clarified since that has been linked to a 10-fold increased risk of fatality. If Brett Kavanaugh did put his hand over Ms. Ford's mouth after she screamed when he was pinning her down to try to have his way with her at least by touching her, that is too grievous a violation for him to make laws prioritizing the safety of the people of our country. 

Likely his wife and close friends will want to rethink the boundaries they make with him and want him to go to counseling. He should someday be able to confess to his past mistakes, if indeed he did them and even if he can't honestly remember them. He should likely want help trying to remember, because that's almost more concerning than doing the deeds. What Else might he do that he 'can't recall.' So really it seems the easiest thing to 'transition from this fight of the century' is to Back Down. If he still has a day job, he can 'stick to that' if they'll have him on terms that don't insist he be investigated. "Innocent until proven guilty" doesn't necessarily pertain to keeping one's job or family.

As we see in A Winter's Tale or in Camelot (where King Arthur has a bit more ground to reject Queen Gueneviere since she did gavotte with Sir Lancelot, the King's best friend and noble knight of the Round Table...but not to the point of putting her to death...pulllease!).

The same dynamics play out in many a modern family drama in real court (or televised based on true stories) : the appearance of a happy family does not the reality make. Why not take these tales of woe and warning to do a 'Just In Case" review of the people in your life if not your own self..and Get Help to Fix the Stinkin' Thinkin' of the past, present and avoid what could arise along these lines in the future..We've all been duly warned. The Blanket of Protection that could help every child born to a caring mother and a father (who may have been on board but who may have switched gears) is  US Congressional House Resolution 72.

That would give custody of a child to the mothers (the most common type of victim), the alleged victims of abuse, to promote safety for all in the family during transition and initial court decisions.Hopefully that is a statement Everybuddy can understand and support with letters to Rep. Pete Sessions and their own national state representatives. See more information also on CA Protective Parents Alliance (CAPPA) and get ready to learn some new lines of advocacy and defense to help warn this and future generations to prevent abuse, or at least stop it in its tracks...a bit like a BKavanaugh..before it's Too  Late for US All!