Safety, Prayers and Growing Community After Someone's Passing

 When I heard about a one-car accident in the NW CT area on Route 4 E in Goshen, I started praying for the peaceful transition of the person's soul and for her family to hold her in love and light, not be too despairing which is of course almost impossible to do but overall, important to value the life the person lived and likely is still experiencing spiritually.

Then learning from someone that they were in the traffic delay caused by the accident, I shared the following...To a caring, wise, capable counselor (and by extension to others near any kind of challenge, whether an argument, problem or injury or fatality)...you were close to where this terrible turn of events occurred...so it is with extra gratitude we would appreciate your safety and realize 'we are all on these roads' and need to be extra vigilant about driving as safely as possible.

With all of the people you help and others in the more challenging support fields, maybe you were on a kind of earth angel team, being aware 'something was going on' and your overall good energies helping on some level.

I try to pray whenever I hear a siren realizing it could be serious and that many first response people are transitioning to be on the scene and face the reality of such possibilities...and tragically at times, have the more serious injuries or fatality to address. A few years ago I was in my garden in NWCT,  about a mile from a dangerous intersection of Rt 7 and Rt 63, where there is a gas station in a triange, and heard sirens.

I felt strongly that it could be a serious accident causing the alarm. Within a short time I learned that a person from Great Barrington MA, one of the nicest, healthiest men I had a chance to meet since he did major outreaches about eating sprouts had transitioned.

Within a few days I heard from a friend they had spent time with his family in special ways so again felt I was able to let her know I was thinking of his family and friends. Since then I have seen his sons a few times at gatherings here and in NYC who are carrying on the business, so seeing that are again wayshowers for a path of healing and being strong as ways to honor the legacy of their father.

Thinking of everyone being supported by their loved ones here and above, angels or other healing forces can help one feel 'there's something one can do, when they can't be close or it's not clear what can be done.'

Looking at life on a continuum of growth and 'transition' to an ongoing spiritual experience as many scientists are indicating 'could well be the case' (such as with NDE studies by PMH Water researcher and many others) could be part of the wider discussion to help ease the sense of 'finality and loss'.

The idea of learning and leaning into the meaning of all aspects of life to inform our collective and individual experiences can be a lifelong endeavor. A few minutes at a time is a start, then hearing talks online or reading can fill in more gaps.

Our schools and society seems complicit if not intent on 'keeping us in the dark' about such things, but hopefully more people are finding ways to fill in gaps and consider ideas from around the world and from the past as well.

Every state could hold more forums on 'what to consider' about driving safely (with many volunteer guidelines to reduce the need for optional trips, such as people shopping for one another, driving in basic directions such as North at noon, South on the half hour, West at a quarter of and East at a quarter after...so that would decrease the odds of 'head on's".

For students going to the high school, more monitoring would be helpful to check patterns and perhaps have adults car pool , particularly for new drivers. When it's optional to plan extra time (for detours or delays to avoid speeding.)

I did want to say at the start that holding a person such as Diana (of Canaan CT) who crossed over, in an uplifting heartfelt way for a few days, lighting a candle during a meal time or at the start of the day or noon or evening (if not more than once), taking a reflective walk and connecting with the natural world and energy of her life and that of her family and friends can all be helpful...That can be done in ongoing ways but the first few days may help their transition as they are greeted by loved ones and guides on the other side. 

Those are ideas I have learned from the Steiner community...and some as well from Edgar Cayce that seem to concur with overall Christian values...particularly the older lost texts (Dead Sea Scrolls..) 

So much to consider and not many people to readily access. End of Life Doulas (EOLDs) are working to host more community conversations and help people feel more prepared and have support to explore options when there is a serious or terminal diagnosis.

It can be helpful for anyone to have a basic 'game plan' and also to have a circle of supportive family and friends to work through any challenge, including such a sudden parting under difficult circumstances. 

It is important to remember the person is not suffering as they were in the time just before their passing and that there are various alternative healers, counselors and even medical people who can help assess the situation each person in a social circle or community is facing whether they are directly affected or otherwise impacted by the news.

In our small towns or even in larger areas, there are natural support networks that have formed over time.

Those support networks could be enhanced over time with more people joining in so there would be clarity about how could be called for various times and jobs.

Thanks for everyone who has found time and made efforts to help themselves and others in difficult times, with good self-care, a listening ear in person or on the phone or online and in gatherings and outreaches one may have joined in...and will continue to do as it part of life.

I explore more on my blog and there is more online that can help with all of these kinds of challenges...and yet growing a strong community is good medicine overall.

The kinds of sharing I do on livfully.org and on a Facebook Page Remembering Kaelan Alexander Palmer Paton (and a current  2019 tribute fundraiser on FB on the tenth year of his passing in June 2009) as well as a youtube of his Memorial Service all help to provide a framework for sharing how important community is when it comes to the challenges of life. His grandparents, my former in-laws, Caroline and Sandy (Alexander) Paton also are with him on the other side and had song-filled memorials which are online (or will be soon.)

The founders of Folk-Legacy Records, their label has been donated to the Smithsonian Folkways Institute for a wider sharing online and distribution. This kind of 'increase in connection and sharing our legacies' can benefit people of all walks of life to take a higher view of our life and times. Our collective journey on earth is at a critical time.

All that has come before this period on earth may be much more meaningful to humans and even others in various realms than we have had an opportunity to consider. In many ways, the serious parts of life awaken us to our gratitude and power, and spur us to show support for one another on many levels from emotional and social, sharing knowledge and funds and crafting plans for the future if not the earth's survival.

Humanity's Team is offering a program on Climate Change in September 2019 that hopefully can give us more meaningful information to consider. Like many important things in life, the direction we choose to travel and ways to get organized and 'on the road' is a group effort, not something a few leaders can necessarily determine or convince people to pursue (without force, which of course is the case in many countries around the world. 

Here's to a peaceful way to respond to any kind of challenge, local or larger, with support and consideration for help from the other side, spiritually and in helpful realms around the universe.  For now we have time to reflect, appreciate all who have come before us, and ways to influence the next months and years which are very special times to be part of with out best efforts for balance and care, insights and work to create a brighter future.